how to tackle the death of loved ones

i heard this one at one session by "BAWA" last week .......

we always mourn the death of our beloved ones , for a long time...
sometimes can never get over it. some go into depression. some lose their purpose in life.

now here's a lovely way of putting it in a positive way.

you pass you final year of college....ie, you graduate...........
now even if you want to ,( coz u have enjoyed your time in college)you cannot stay for a year more, how much ever you want , coz your purpose of being there is achieved , and you must move ahead to pursue higher goals.it is a fact of life....

similarly ,
death is the stage of graduation from your life. you have achieved your purpose in life , and you are wasting your time here. death is the passage to your next goal , your next objective.so never mourn anyone's death for a long time , coz then you are not allowing your loved one to leave you( he/she cannot leave until he/she is sure you are fine) , so that he can pursue the higher goals, which "god " has decided for him................

so the best way to handle the death of your loved one is to mourn for some time, say a week or two , but then keep it all aside and celebrate his/her graduation....
by doing what your loved one had done in his/her times of happiness. go to the beach . throw a party. watch a movie......

the best gift you could give to the loved one who has untimely parted with you .........................